Sunday, March 4, 2012

...forgiveness....

"Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.[1][2] The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as 'to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt'." ~Wikipedia

I have been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately...
I have been wondering why it is so much harder to forgive yourself than it is to forgive someone else. I wonder if this is true for everyone...
Have you been able to forgive yourself for things?
How do you move forward from this ~
I always love the thoughts and ideas that all of you share with me here~
Would love your input!

6 comments:

  1. It's true for me. I have always been so hard on myself. My sister always tells me that I give very good advice to people and am so positive but I can not take my own advice and give myself a break. It's something that I will need to learn too.

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  2. I know what you mean....

    One thing I've decided is that I can't change the past. I can learn from it. I can grow from it, but I can't change what happened. It's done. All I can do is learn to move on. (I know that's easier said than done.)

    One thing I do when something comes back to my mind from the past is say this: "I've already been forgiven for that. I'm now going to move on and be grateful for another opportunity the next time to get it right." I try to use it as a stepping stone instead of a stumbling block.

    I don't know if you believe in Jesus or not, but my answer is found in the fact that He forgives me and loves me just like I am. I can tell Him anything and He doesn't tell anyone else! :)

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  3. Oh forgiveness... I know for me I am always harder on myself than anyone else. There are so many times when I beat myself up thinking about the could have, should have, would have thoughts that always end up just bringing me down. It's so hard to just let go and realize we are human and make mistakes. At least for me I always expect perfection and when that doesn't happen I can definitely beat myself up. I have gotten better recently not trying to be a perfectionist but sometimes it's still hard. I hope that whatever you're wresting with you can forgive yourself and move forward. HUGS!

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  4. I don't know why it is hard to forgive yourself and easier to forgive others. I just try hard to think of all the possibilities and outcomes before saying or doing something. But even after being cautious I still make mistakes because I am only human and there will always be room for error.

    I also wanted to let you know that I have tagged you to do the 11 things questionnaire. Let me know if you decided to participate because I would love to read your answers to the questions I have asked.

    http://superfluousambitions.blogspot.com/2012/03/11-things.html

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  5. Forgiving yourself always seems so much more difficult than to forgive others. Probably because we spend so much more time with ourselves. I don't pretend to have the answers. There are things that I do not forgive myself for, yet am quick to forgive others of the same transgressions. I hope and pray that time will allow you (and me) to forgive what we needs to be forgiven within us.

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  6. We are always harder in ourselves. I don't understand why. Maybe we need to see ourselves in a mirror to realize that we are humans and that we deserve a second chance :>

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